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5 Keys to a Great Relationship

5 Keys to a Great Relationship

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Guest post by Caitriona Reed I’m very happy that Caitriona has agreed to share this post with The Liberated Life Project. As a woman of transsexual experience who took a journey that involved recreating her public persona, Caitriona Reed is a great model of living a liberated life. I’ve known Caitriona since 1996, when we met at Plum Village, the spiritual community in the South of France founded by Buddhist teacher Ven. Thich Nhat Hanh (also known as Thây). At that time, Caitriona was Christopher, and a Dharma (Buddhist) teacher ordained by Thây. During that trip I also met Michele Benzamin-Miki, who has been Caitriona’s life partner throughout this extraordinary transition. Caitriona has more than 20 years experience as a consultant, public speaker, workshop leader, and facilitator of personal and organizational change. She is also co-founder of Manzanita Village Retreat Center, a retreat in the mountains of Southern California. ______________________________ “Love does not consist of two people gazing intently into each others’ eyes, but by their looking out in the same direction from a shared vantage point.” —Antoine de Saint Exupéry Many otherwise extremely successful people have reflected that without the intimacy of a sustained and loving relationship, all their accomplishments mean very little. Without someone to share their success, their life remains empty and unfulfilled. As humans we are wired for connection with others. We are social animals. We have evolved our primate sensibilities and perceptions over millions of years. Our skills for communicating and interacting with other people embody the essence of who we are. Have you noticed that those skills seem to grow stronger when you are in deepening proximity to others, or more precisely to an-other, with whom you are coming into increasing degrees of intimacy and loving ease? Without the sort of intimacy that we experience with a mate, a companion, or a lover, we may be missing an essential catalyst, something that is uniquely capable of moving us towards greater fulfillment.  I do not just mean sexual intimacy, but something more encompassing – that may or may not include sex. There is much to be said for solitude. We may indeed be wired for that too. Some of us thrive on it. However,...

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