Beginnings. . . Relationships
Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind.
“Pooh!” he whispered.
“Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s paw.
“I just wanted to be sure of you.”
As I’ve been writing these introduction posts for each category, I’ve kept staring at “Relationships” and finding all kinds of ways to avoid it. I’ve not had an easy time with relationships in my life and by no means do I feel like I’m an expert in this area. In fact, my life has been one long trudge to learn what intimacy really means. An image of a scene from the movie Dr. Zhivago comes to mind, where the good doctor is practically crawling across the plains of Russia in the midst of a huge blizzard… yes, that’s what it’s felt like at times.
What does it mean to be “liberated” when it comes to relationships? I believe it means—
- coming to know ourselves well enough so that our ‘stuff’ doesn’t get projected onto our loved one
- understanding the beliefs that we’ve inherited about what relationships are supposed to be like – and letting them go so that we can be present for what our relationship is truly like
- realizing that the most important relationship is the one with ourselves
- knowing that we are in relationship with the whole world at all times
“Relationship” is defined broadly here – it may be with a wife, husband, partner, or lover. But it can also be with our kids, our parents, our best friend, our co-workers, the homeless young man down the street, that beautiful gnarled oak tree in the park. Remember, everything in a liberated life is bigger than it seems.
What this is really about is interconnection, that mysterious quality of life in which we are connected to everyone and everything, and at the same time we walk our path alone.
The Liberated Life Project will explore these relationship edges…with the intention of building stronger connections to all our beloveds. I’m sure I’ll be learning just as much as you : )
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